Thursday, December 11, 2014

December Dating

It’s Here! The Holiday’s are upon us. Here are some dating tips for both singles and couples trying to deal with this hectic time of year.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

My New Life Coach!

So, most people don't realize how hard it is for someone who was a serial relationship person to be single for 7 years. But I'm hear to tell you - it gets harder every day. For some of those 7 years, I didn't even try to date, due to some personal family tragedies that I was dealing with. I'm  firm believer that you need to be strong and confident in yourself before you can be in a good relationship. Trust me, for a few years there, that was NOT me and I knew it.

I've always been independent. I mean, hell, I practically raised myself in my crazy family. And I practically raised my siblings in the process, so I've never been dependent on someone taking care of me. But, I think I appreciated my relationships that much more because we would support each other. We would do nice things for each other and it wasn't ever always on me. That feeling was so foreign to me that I cherished it, even if sometimes I worried it wouldn't always happen.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

The Myth of The Nice Guy Syndrome

I'm going to dispel a major myth: Real Nice Guys Do Not Finish Last.

Being a "nice guy" is a good thing. I have rarely met a woman (nice or not) who has thought to herself, "You know what kind of guy I want? I want a guy who will cheat on me, lie to me, hurt me, and all around be an asshole." That is not how it works. However, I'm here to remind people that being nice is not all it takes to find someone in the dating world. Lots of people try to put out the stereotype that being nice is boring. That is indeed sometimes hurting the nice people out there, painting them with a bad reputation. But being a nice person myself (and many people comment on how "nice" I am) I know no one has ever described me as boring.

There are a lot of things people look for in a potential mate, and being nice simply is just not the only factor. For example, myself? I'm definitely looking for a nice guy. One that is honest, respectful, supportive, and loyal. But, I'm also looking for a good chemistry, a guy who is more Dominant in the bedroom, a guy who is funny and smart, and finally, a guy who does not take himself too seriously. So, even for this nice girl (who is often told I'm too nice), being nice is simply not enough. I'm not rejecting nice guys because they are nice. I reject certain nice guys because they either don't meet all my needs, or, honestly, they aren't really a nice guy at all. Instead, they are what is now known as "Nice Guy™."

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Mobbies: What Blogs I have found 2014

The best part of Mobbies time for me is finding Baltimore blogs I wasn't aware of before. Nominated, or not, I always love finding more people to read in our amazing community. Here are some gems I found this year!

Name Not Important

This blog followed me just after the nominees were announced. Although this new blog is still new (and not up for an award this year - look for it in 2015), this blogger has a way of just capturing your mind. I truly hope it is not just a spark, but more of a long standing place. His/Her journey is truly something that I think all of us can relate to. It may be raw, but that is what I love about it.

UK Desperate Housewife

As someone who loves a good reality show, it it s so nice to discover this "real" blog. Especially in my own back yard of Howard County. Please go read what she has to say. I feel more British every day!

2 Dudes Who Love Food
I really want to say - these two brothers LOVE food! They are great at finding the best places to eat in the area. It doesn't matter that they are still in "school", they care about food and work to promote great local places!

Eye On Annapolis
I may not always be on the "side" of political people I meet, but I love that the dialogue is open. Eye On Annapolis keeps us in tune with what is happening in our state capitol. Which truly has a bigger impact on our daily lives. Wake up and follow!

That's it for my newcomers. Now for some other of my local favorites you REALLY should be reading on a regular basis :)

Baltimore Slumlord Watch

Baltimore Brew

The Baltimore Chop

The City That Breeds

The Unmanly Chef

HoCo Rising

Let's Give Peas A Chance!

I Hate JJ Redick

Steve Charing Out Baltimore

Village Green/Town Squared

Dads Change Diapers, Too!

Please take some time to vote for me and others - we all appreciate it!

Friday, October 31, 2014

Remembering The '90s: Writing Is Beautiful

For the Baltimore Sun Mobbies awards this year, the theme is the '90s. Although I’m still a little in shock that the grunge decade ended almost over 15 years ago, The Sun prompted us to reflect on what we miss the most from those 10 years. For me, food or toys are not what I remember most about that time, but rather how I communicated with friends. It is so easy to just send a text or email now that we tend to lose sight of what truly bonds us together. I can keep up with what is going on with friends and family via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media, but those mediums don’t really allow for full relationship building. Sometimes, you want to share more than what you had for lunch or the concert you attended last night. Sometimes, you long for sharing your deep thoughts, your feelings, and what you need. Therefore, what I would like to bring back are written notes.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Beauty Inside And Out: Giveaway #1

As promised earlier this week, it's time for the Beauty Inside And Out weekly check-in. Welcome to the first Beauty Inside And Out Giveaway! For our first round: Face Wash and Mask for troubled skin as a package!

Monday, October 13, 2014

Beauty Inside And Out: Introduction

I follow lots of blogs that do giveaways in appreciation of their loyal readers and I always think to myself, "I should really do something like that!" I appreciate all of the support I get from all of my readers and I thank them all the time. But, I wanted to do more, I just didn't know what I could do. This blog has changed gears a few times, but I finally feel like it is in a place that I really enjoy. Not only sharing my own experiences, but also promoting body positivity and sex positive actions. Although I believe beauty on the inside always shows on the outside, there are times that we also want to take care of the outside. I also believe sex positive is about the "whole person" so if we have physical things we want to "fix" or "change", that isn't necessarily wrong. It is only "wrong" to belive that they will prevent you from having the sex and love you truly deserve. So, what is my point here?